Ask Tiffany: On making friends and being cool
Dear Tiffany,
I’m a freshman trying to find who my best friends will be here at college. I can’t help but feel like I’m the only one who hasn’t found that person or group that I “click” with.
I’ve been hanging out with the girls down the hall in my dorm, but they’re pretty reserved and never want to explore campus events or go to parties. I’ve seen this group of other girls that seem to always be having fun and share my sense of humor. I really want to hang out with them! But I don’t know how to move on from this other group of boring (sorry!) girls I’ve fallen in with … I don’t want to hurt feelings or make things awkward.
-Friend FOMO
Why not be friends with both groups of girls if you’re concerned about offending? Don’t feel bad looking for people you click with, but there’s no need to burn any bridges either.
If befriending the whole group of fun girls seems intimidating, a more manageable first step is to hang out with a few you already know. Next time there’s an event or party you want to check out, suggest rolling through together. Or, ask them to get lunch somewhere besides the dining hall, because I’m sure EVK is getting old already. You’ve just got to make an effort.
It may seem like everyone else has their group already, but these groups may not even last through the semester. At USC, it’s likely you’ll find friend-soulmates after freshman year as well. Don’t get too down about it, it’s only been a month!
Dear Tiffany,
You seem relatively hip and “with it.” What is your advice on being “cool”?
*Disclaimer: I’m only relatively hip*
It’s cool to always be unyieldingly yourself and to not care about being cool.
Tiffany Kuan is a senior majoring in business administration. Her blog advice column, Ask Tiffany, runs every Monday.